1) 아기에 대한 문제, 가질 것이냐 아니냐, 가질거면 누가 메인으로 보살필 거냐?
2) 서로의 재정적인 문제에 대한 의무, 목표, 쓸거 모을 것에 대한 생각 질문했나?
3) 집안 일에 대한 논의 누가 관리하느냐?
4) 정신적, 신체적 건강에 대한 이력 얘기했나?
5) 내가 기대하는 것, 파트너도 좋아하냐?
6) 섹스에 대해서 얘기하기
7) 침실에 TV 둘거냐 말거냐
8) 서로의 생각이나 불만에 대한 경청을 듣나?
9) 서로의 종교적인 문제에 대한 논의, 그리고 애들한테 종교적 윤리적 뭐 이런 교육 어떻게 할거냐?
10)서로의 친구들 좋아하나?
11) 내가족이 상대방에게 화나게 하는것?
12) 서로가 결혼을 망설이게 하는 것은 없나?
13) 혹시 상대방이 먼곳에 직장을 얻으면 따라갈 준비가 되있나?
14) 서로가 결혼에 대한  서로의 결혼에 대한 서약에 대해서 충분히 자신있어 하고, 어떠한 것이 오더라도 극복할 수 있음을 믿는가?

이상. 출처: nytimes

한국사정상, 몇가지는 좀 안맞지만서도 대략 클리어하게 정의하고 있는 것 같다. 결혼전 체크리스트.
결혼은 중요하다. 결혼의 실패는 생각보다 굉장히 크다.



Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:


1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?